If you want your child to perform up to their abilities academically, cooperate with you, and truly listen to you, it is essential that you engage in the act of speaking positively to your child. As a parent, it is quite likely that you have forcefully spoken to your child and bombarded them with various types of bribes, threats, and even empty promises. Examples include telling a child that if they do not finish their dinner, they will not ever get dessert again, if they do not get to sleep they will be sorry, and that they must share or you will not let them play with their toys ever again. Children must be talked to in a positive and productive manner. Failure to do this could result in academic problems, emotional problems, social problems, and lack of cooperation.
Children that are spoken to in a positive, upbeat way are more likely to do well in their schooling, respond in a positive fashion, have a higher level of interest, cooperate, and have higher levels of motivation. Furthermore, these children have a higher amount of respect for themselves and those around them. The following outlines several steps that may be taken to help you in focusing on speaking positively to your children. If you follow these steps, you are sure to see many positive changes occurring with your kids:
- The first step to speaking positively is to try to veer away from using the word “no”. I know, this is a difficult first step – that is for sure! However, there are actually many creative ways to do this. Instead of saying, “No screaming”, for example, say, “Let’s talk in a low tone”, or, “Let’s talk very quietly”.
- The next step in positive speaking is to use “we” statements. This encourages cooperation. Instead of telling a child that they need to do something right away, try saying, “Let’s do this together”.
- Kids hate lectures. I bet you can guess what step 3 is, right? Yes, no lecturing. Not only will you find that your child does not listen to most of the lecture, you may put them on the defensive. Instead of learning the right way to do things, they will be more concerned about defending the wrong way that they did whatever they did – not very productive.
- When providing your child with instructions, you should ensure that they are very specific.
- When speaking to your child, be sure that you make an effort to connect with them in a friendly manner.
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